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Would you also want to start a wauwel klup yourself, or do
you want to make time to have a long wauwel club conversation?
This is a guide with inspiration.

who

The minimum number of people for a wauwel klup is three.
The maximum is six (based on how many people fit around a
dining table). It is best not to have a klup-leader so that everyone
can participate equally. However, it can be useful to appoint a mediator whose goal is to get everyone to participate equally.
This person should not dominate the conversation. And in the
event of multiple meetings, it is advisable to appoint a different mediator each time.

when

A session can last between 1 and 4 hours. Since every member of
the group should be given the opportunity to participate without feeling rushed. This is why it is important to take the time for the wauwel klup. The larger the group, the more time you generally
need.

where

Organize a session at one of the group members’ homes, since the atmosphere of the meetings should be informal and comfortable. Another option is to hold the meeting outdoors.

rules

It is also very important to speak personally. Theorizing, abstracting, and generalizing discourage the intimacy of the group. In addition to speaking personally, everyone should try to be as specific and subjective as they can for that increases the experience and growth of the group as a whole.

Never interrupt or challenge anyone who is speaking. It will place someone on the defensive when you interrupted and judged or challenge them. This hinders the process of self-realization. It is important to remember that personal feelings are neither right nor wrong and should not be judged or challenged by group members. There will be time to discuss reasons for feelings after everyone has spoken.

Clarifications may be asked for (such as “who said that?” or “how old were you?”), because with an attentive audience, a person doesn’t have to worry about being talked over, waiting for the right moment to say something, or feeling that someone is belittling or making fun of her. It also gives her time to pause and collect her thoughts without worrying about losing her opportunity to speak.

It helps to keep in mind that when you speak, no one will interrupt, judge or challenge what you have to say.

how ~ meeting 0

It takes time and patience to develop the trust necessary for complete openness and honesty.
This takes longer when people don’t know each other yet. That is why it is useful to create a
moment in advance to get to know each other better. For example, by eating together before
the first meeting. (Each person can bring their own food and/or drink to share, which puts
less pressure on the host.)

how ~ meeting 1

During the first meeting, 10 statements will be discussed. It is important to stay close to your own experience and knowledge,
but at the same time to be curious about the experiences of others.

Each participant writes down 2 to 5 statements.
These are collected in the middle. The mediator reads the statements aloud one by one. Then all participants are given the time to vote with the help of their coasters with yes/true/agree or no/false/disagree. Once everyone has made a choice, the conversation starts around the answers.
It is important that everyone gets a turn to explain his/her/their
answer in detail. In addition, there must always be room to come
back to earlier statements. In the beginning, the mediator’s role
might be bigger. But don’t be afraid to go of topic either.

After 10 statements, the session is over. It is possible that not everything is discussed during one meeting. If the need arises,
the other statements can be discussed at a subsequent meeting.

how ~ meeting 2

In the second meeting, the emphasis is on reflecting on the first meeting. Everyone answers the following questions in their own way:

- How did you feel afterwards?
- What did you remember the most?
- What would you like to share after our previous conversation?
- Who did you talk to about our conversation,
what did you share with them and what was their reaction?
- Is there anything you think differently about now?

During this meeting, it is also possible to see whether there is interest in more meetings in which this topic and/or the other statements can be discussed.

ideas for topics related to identity:

* Residence Status * Health * Disability * Religion
* Philosophy of life * Age * Stage of life * Possession
* Culture * Social Development * Education
* Class * Nationality * Ethnicity * Skin Colour
* Sexual Orientation * Gender * Gender & Sex
* Language & Literacy.

examples of statements

* it’s nice when people guess where I grew up * I’m proud of where I come from * I experience negativity because my origin * Someday I’ll go back to where I was grew up * I think it is important to pass on my language * I don’t feel well represented in media *

De wauwel klup should not be thought of as therapy or encounter sessions, but as forums for mutual self-discovery. It is a space in which we learn that many of our feelings and problems are not ours alone but are shared by others